When you’re in a phase of healing, it can be messy. It can feel like your life is falling even more apart throughout your healing process. But, you have to stick it out to the other side of it, you have to stay and fight to see the light at the end.

Let yourself feel everything you’re feeling. Take it all in. All of the good, bad and ugly. Feel it all. It’s okay to cry, to scream, to get it out.

It’s okay to talk about it. It’s okay to let others know you’re not okay. And it’s simply okay to not be okay. We don’t have to have it all together all the time, I know social media can play tricks on us and make us believe our lives need to be perfect and we need to be perfect, but that’s not practical. It’s okay to not be okay.

Healing from trauma is not about forgetting that it ever happened, because you can’t forget. Healing is about reframing your experiences, your hurts, your traumas, so they add depth and meaning to your life.

Healing isn’t going to be bubble baths and all self care days, though they are still needed. Healing is going to be messy and ugly. It’s getting to the root, it’s triggering and intense.

Healing through childhood trauma, adult trauma, family trauma, relationships, breakups; they’re all hell. It’s all messy, but it’s all going to be worth it in the end.

There’s no timeline on when you’re supposed to heal or “be over” something or someone. It’s okay if you thought you were more along on your healing process and it hits you all over again. It’s okay to fall apart. You are not weak for falling apart. You are not weak for showing emotions. You are not weak for talking about it. You are not weak.

Better things are coming.

You are loved. You are worthy of love. You are good enough. You deserve good things and good humans in your life. You are smart and capable. You are amazing just the way you are.

Yes. Healing is a hot ass mess. But, it’s going to be okay. You’re going to be okay.

We got this, babes.


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